9 Ways to make people like you

This article is written by Gerio O' Neill, a metaphysical teacher, journalist & educator. Below are tips how to make people like us happy:

1. STOP what you’re doing

2. LOOK Make and maintain eye contact

3. LISTEN Pay attention to what is said

4. ASK appropriate questions

5. RESPECT other opinions even if you don’t agree

6. SMILE to show warmth and friendliness

7. USE the person’s name

8. TALK about interesting things

9. PRAISE the person

These simple steps say: I am glad to be with you. I want to connect with you and have a positive interaction. Emotions are contagious. If you’re happy and pleased to be in another’s company, that person is going to feel the same about you.

BOTTOM LINE: We instinctively like people who like us. We appreciate and support people who make us feel important.

If you only remember 1 of the 9 steps, make sure it’s #9.

THE LAW OF PRAISE

What you praise increases. Dwell on, focus on, talk about the negative and you will see more of it. Focus on the positive, and you will see more of that. Look for the good in people, praise it and you will call forth the best in them. And they will love you for it!

Praise is like fertilizer. It makes things grow.

Who you are is enough: Guide to a Happy Day

As I am following "Expanded Consciousness" website, let me share with you these ideas that attract happiness: 

Life is made up of days, and if you focus on making each day beautiful – appreciating, enjoying and loving what is – in the end, you will have created a beautiful life. It’s that easy.

Here are 11 things you should remind yourself daily, things that will most probably bring more sunshine into your life and more peace into your heart:

1. This moment is your life.
Today, here and now, is where your life is. This moment is your life. And if you make a choice to immerse yourself fully into this moment – appreciating, enjoying and loving what is you will experience joy that you have never experienced before, and you will feel more alive than you have ever felt.

“Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.” ~ Omar Khayyam

2. There is a time for everything.
There is a time for being alone and a time for being surrounded by the people you love; a time for joy and a time for sorrow; a time for being vigorous, and a time for being exhausted; a time for being safe, and a time for being in danger… “A time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak.” ~ Ecclesiastes 3:2-7.

There is a time for everything, and the more we learn to accept and embrace this truth, the more peace we will feel in our hearts and the easier it will become for us to deal with life’s many changes and challenges.

3. Each day is a new beginning, each morning is a new life.
The beautiful thing about life is that each morning it gives you a new chance, a new opportunity to start all over. To let go of your yesterdays and make a fresh new start in life. That’s how generous life is…

“Finish every day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt crept in. Forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. Nothing in life is yours to keep.
Everything in life is fleeting and impermanent. Everything changes, nothing ever stays the same, and even though we like to hold on to things, to own and possess as many things as possible, the truth of the matter is that nothing is ours to keep. When the time comes for us to leave this physical world, we take nothing with us. We leave everything behind us, including our own bodies.

“You only lose what you cling to.” ~ Buddha

5. You are never given more than you can handle.
Adversity builds character, strength and maturity. Every experience, every interaction, no matter how bad it might seem, has the ability to shape you, to mold you, and to help you become the person you were born to be. And if life gives you “a lot” to deal with, it is only because it knows how powerful you truly are, and it wants you to discover the courage, the wisdom and the strength that lie deep within you.

6. You were born with wings. Learn to use them and fly!
There is so much strength, so much beauty, so much wisdom and so much power within you. Always has been and always will be. And if you dare to believe in yourself as much as you would want others to believe in you, and if you dare to dream and live your life as if there were no limits to what you could do, be and have, then in time, you will discover that, “You were born with potential. You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness. You were born with wings. You are not meant for crawling, so don’t. You have wings. Learn to use them and fly.” ~ Rumi

7. What other people think of you is none of your business.
Lao Tzu said it best in the Tao Te Ching:”Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner.” Worrying about what other people think of you and adjusting your life based on their opinions is a recipe for stress, unhappiness, confusion and misery. Always remember that your life is yours to live, and you should live it your way without being too concerned with what “they” think.

8. Never neglect your path for another.
You have your own path to walk upon, your unique purpose to fulfill, and no matter how tempting it might be to put your life on hold just because those around you are asking for it, you should never do it. The relationship you have with your own soul, with your life purpose and with your path in life is the most important relationship in your life. This is a sacred relationship, and you should treat it as such.

“You are the source of all purity and impurity. No one purifies another. Never neglect your work for another’s, however great his need. Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart to give yourself to it.” ~Dhammapada

9. It is better to be alone than in bad company.
Surround yourself with wise, kind and loving people; people who live in truth and integrity. And “If for company you cannot find a wise and prudent friend who leads a good life, then, like a king who leaves behind a conquered kingdom, or like a lone elephant in the elephant forest, you should go your way alone.” ~ Dhammapada

10. You are a human being, not a human doing.
You are a human being, not a human doing and you need to make sure that you don’t allow your ego to trick you into thinking that who you are is not enough and that in order for you to “become somebody,” in order for you to prove your worth, you have TO DO more and more each day. There’s nothing wrong in doing things, nothing wrong with working and creating all kinds of wonderful things, but when you begin to equate your self worth with how much you do, with how hard you work and how good you are at doing the things you do, then things might get out of balance.

“I am a human being, not a human doing. Don’t equate your self-worth with how well you do things in life. You aren’t what you do. If you are what you do, then when you don’t…you aren’t.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

11. Who you are is enough.
Who you are is already enough, not because of how your life looks externally, but because of who you are internally. So don’t you even dare, not even for a second, to think otherwise.

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.” ~ Maya Angelou

With all my love,

Laws of Karma to guide our way to spirituality..

I came across this article from the 'Expanded Consciousness' website written by Raven E. Aurlineus, et al..

I thought these laws of Karma may guide our way to grow spiritually and help us navigate life wonderfully. So, here they are the 12 Laws of Karma: 

1. The Great Law

• “As you sow, so shall you reap.” This is also known as the “Law of Cause and Effect.”
• If what we want is happiness, peace, love, and friendship, then we should BE happy, peaceful, loving and a true friend.
• Whatever we put out in the Universe is what comes back to us.

2. The Law of Creation

• Life doesn’t just happen. It requires our participation.
• We are one with the Universe, both inside and out.
• Whatever surrounds us gives us clues to our inner state.
• Be yourself, and surround yourself with what you want to have in your life.

3. The Law of Humility

• You can’t change something if you refuse to accept it.
• If what we see is an enemy, or someone with a character trait that we find to benegative, then we ourselves are not focused on a higher level of existence.

4. The Law of Growth

• “Wherever you go, there you are.”
• For us to grow in Spirit, it is we who must change, and not the people, places or things around us.
• The only given we have in our lives is ourselves, and that is the only factor we have control over.
• When we change who and what we are within our hearts, our lives follow suit and change too.

5. The Law of Responsibility

• Whenever there is something wrong in my life, there is something wrong in me.
• We mirror what surrounds us, and what surrounds us mirrors us; this is a Universal Truth.
• We must take responsibility for what is in our life.

6. The Law of Connection

• Even if something we do seems inconsequential, it is very important that it gets done as everything in the Universe is connected.
• Each step leads to the next step, and so forth and so on.
• Someone must do the initial work to get a job done.
• Neither the first step nor the last are of greater significance, as they were both needed to accomplish the task.
• Past, Present and Future are all connected.

7. The Law of Focus

• You cannot think of two things at the same time.
• Because of this, when our focus is on Spiritual Values, it is impossible for us to have lower thoughts such as greed or anger.

8. The Law of Giving and Hospitality

• If you believe something to be true, then sometime in your life you will be called upon to demonstrate that particular truth.
• Here is where we put what we CLAIM that we have learned into actual PRACTICE.

9. The Law of Here and Now

• Looking backward to examine what was or forward to worry about the future prevents us from being totally in the here and now.
• Old thoughts, old patterns of behavior, and old dreams prevent us from having new ones.

10. The Law of Change

• History repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.

11. The Law of Patience and Reward

• All rewards require initial toil.
• Rewards of lasting value require patient and persistent toil.
• True joy comes from doing what we’re suppose to be doing, and knowing that the reward will come in its own time.

12. The Law of Significance and Inspiration

• You get back from something whatever you have put into it.
• The true value of something is a direct result of the energy and intent that is put into it.
• Every personal contribution is also a contribution to the Whole.
• Lackluster contributions have no impact on the Whole, nor do they work to diminish it.
• Loving contributions bring life to, and inspire, the Whole.

13 funny lessons learned from the last 13 days without water flowing through my pipelines

1. Water runs downhill (you idiot)! Who has the water has the power!  

2. Live near the water source (to avoid high blood pressure); living uphill needs high water pressure for water to smoothly flow through the pipelines. Hahaha.

3. You can't beat the system. Consumers pay with or without water. Business is business. Kung wala Kay tubig, pangita! 

4. I don't know what "utilities" mean...

5. Sisters & brothers are really meant for adversities! Love them. (I get water from my sister these past 13 days)

6. No water is a personal battle. I ask for help from the system & from friends-- 

7. I still don't have water flowing through my pipelines.

8. I'm still praying for rain. The Rainmaker is my only hope. I'm sure rain comes in due time too!

9. Like water, I flow with life. 

10. I still smell good today.

11. We managed 1pail/pax at home for our individual water needs.

12. I raise my hands & head upwards & smile, "soon water is aplenty."

13. Gratitude is still my attitude!

 

My Prayer: 

Thank you dear God for the lessons & the goodness of the universe. 

Thank you for the people that run the system but couldn't do anything to make water flow to my house. That's okay. It's only temporary.

Thank you for those that work for the environment & love the planet. They make a difference in sustaining Mother Earth.

Thank you, just thank you!

Create Happiness with Words

Happy words create a happy mind. They can give us happiness everyday if we choose to use their power. Pick them carefully to change the way we feel. Here are 3 ways to create happiness with your words choices:

1. Inject happiness into small talk. When someone asks you, "how are you today?" Instead of these uneventful answers-- "I'm fine!" Or, "I'm okay!" try answering "awesome" "I'm fantastic!", "I'm fabulous" or say " I'm beautiful, thank you"!

Note the instant change of mood of your listener. You have infected the other person with your awesome, fantastic, fabulous & beautiful nature, and those were happy words! 

2. Keep discussions friendly.  There are many times when difficult discussion turned into arguments that result in miscommunication.

Instead of pinpointing & saying, "you are always..." try "sometimes you have the tendency to...".

Instead of saying "That's not true" or "You're wrong" try "I don't fully understand what you mean, or your point of view."

This gives respect & understanding to the speaker. When you choose words with negative connotations, you create negativity in the conversation or discussions.

3. Maintain a positive outlook about yourself. When we say negative things about ourselves such as "I'm boring" "I'm tired" "I'm sick" or "I'm just like that"... we actually believe those things & those words create a negative effect on our state of mind.

Words can also give us confidence to reach our dreams. 

There is a big difference between saying, "I wish I have a beach house someday," versus "it would be great to have a beach house someday." 

Words like "I wish" makes it seems it is always a pipe dream compared to "it would be great to have..." This gives us the confidence that our dream is possible.

This article is taken from www.theisleofpeace.com. Find your inner bliss with their articles. 

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